Why is sex getting better with age?
The fact that sex in youth gives the most pleasure is one of the most common misconceptions. Of course, today's women often begin sexual activity at an earlier age than our mothers and grandmothers, and they have more partners than the older generation had. But at the same time, for many young women, sex is rather just an excuse to keep a man and give him pleasure, as well as a way to make sure of their own desires. The pleasure of the woman herself in her youth rarely becomes the main driving force.
In fact, a woman needs time to grow to sexual maturity. And only with age, our sensuality can flourish with a magnificent color. The secret of true pleasure is hidden from young eyes and is revealed to those over thirty, forty and fifty years old. No matter how trite it may sound, the trust and intimacy that have formed over the long years of the spouses' life together will enable couples to open up to each other. They can allow themselves to directly say that they are more pleased, and thus enrich their sexual repertoire.
Unlike an inexperienced young girl, a mature woman most likely lived and suffered enough to know what she wanted. She thinks less about the imperfection of her body or about the need to satisfy her partner in every possible way; she is unlikely to wait for the man to guess what she needs and take the first step herself. It is much easier for her, not embarrassed, to express her desires. Confidence in her judgments and correct self-esteem allow a woman to determine the events of her life herself, so she is unlikely to continue boring, disappointing or simply not bringing joy sexual relationships.
Mature sexuality has nothing to do with sexual fantasies, it is not just seductive underwear or new poses, it is the joy of true intimacy with another person. It is amazing how intricate our sex life can affect everything that happens to us. sex can act as a barometer of an ever-changing atmosphere in the relationship between you and your partner - making love can be passionate, spontaneous and active, and tender, soft, and simply pleasant.
Building a more mature sexual relationship is a gradual process that involves knowing yourself, him and each other together. it does not happen overnight. but the result is worth the wait, the time and effort spent.
Do you hide your self?
It seems to you that you and your partner are not getting true satisfaction? You are not alone in this. Psychologists say that passion is fleeting. A mature desire is harder to wake up, but it lasts longer. A good way to help sexual relations move to a new level is to slow down and step back a step. Return to a more languid, studying love game - while remaining in clothes, hug, kiss, gently touch each other.
Such a game can be very intimate. For many, this is difficult, especially if in childhood they were treated unkindly. But if your mother understood your physiological and emotional needs well, hugged and hugged you so that you immediately calmed down and felt more fun, now you can easily begin to fondle someone you love, hug him or wish to be hugged . If everything was different, then there is nothing surprising in the fact that you can not calmly and relaxedly bask in the arms of your partner. It’s hard for you to understand what you really want in sex. Now you have to learn this yourself.
- To dream of her
- Look perfect
- Be good in bed
- To idealize it
- Look sexy
- Hide yourself
- To be seen as she is
- To be a real man of flesh and blood
- To be loved with all the flaws and taken care of her
- Confidence that whatever she wants will be fulfilled
Be completely satisfied with your body
TIPS OF THE SEXOLOGIST
Candidate of Medical Sciences, leading employee of the Department of Vascular Surgery and Angiosexology, Moscow Medical Academy THEM. Sechenova
I want to start with statistics. 90% of our patients rate their sex life in adolescence much higher than in adulthood. This idea of “adult sex”, perverted in the full sense of the word, very often leads not only to problems of a psychological nature, but also to various kinds of diseases. Adult sexual life, however, like any other, should be an integral part of a healthy lifestyle, and not a dream of unfulfilled expectations.
Most patients who turn to us, sexologists, consider the lack of understanding of their partner as the main reason for poor sex. What does it mean? That it is not customary in families to talk on sexual topics or that there is not enough time and energy to talk. But be that as it may, this is a very important point in intimate relationships! Loving and long-living people should overcome sexual shyness and start discussing these issues. Life and times are changing, which means that sexual desires and addictions can also change. Moreover, according to the statistics of our institute, this shyness has killed no less families than vodka and domestic troubles.