Love and a little cynicism
I must say right away: I do not believe in perfect marriages, but I believe in love. I am for looking at this world with wide eyes and loving it whole. When there is no sun for months and the weather is constantly bad, love is the only thing that warms us.
I am sure that you can fall in love with your ears at any age, because this blessed feeling is connected with heaven, and not with the number of years lived on earth. And no matter how old you are, you have to rejoice in love. What a blessing that a real great feeling has visited you! Although I must admit that it can proceed no less difficult than the flu, and most importantly, there is no cure for either one or the other. Love, like the flu, still have to go through - whether you want it or not. So, to resist it does not make the slightest sense.
I am in favor of joyfully succumbing to love at any age, despite the presence of a husband, children, dogs and unloved work. But you should give in to it only if it is a true feeling, and not a passing hobby. Although it can be quite difficult to separate one from the other. Most often, it happens like this: you came for your birthday, there was an interesting man there. He struck you, you - him. You go out of the holiday all exciting, you think only about it for a day, and then something important distracts you and you forget about the man. Is it worth it here to suffer and portray a great feeling from scratch? It is worth confessing to myself: I had a passing hobby in a big city, it flies a lot in general, and if you react sharply to everything, then there will not be enough emotions!
Another thing is if you have a really serious feeling. For his sake, it’s worth making any sacrifices! Everything is forgiven of love, it is given from God, and in no case it is impossible to run from it, because it turns out that you are not running from a man, but from your own youth and a sense of happiness.
How to distinguish great love from fleeting hobby? I think everything is tested by time. One has to live with feeling for at least a month - alone, without meetings and calls. If passions remain, then this is real.
But here's the bad thing: falling in love, women often turn into romantic fools and cows, and more than anything else they lack healthy cynicism. A woman in love argues something like this: "I met an ideal man and I want to create an ideal marriage." In addition, the man spoke to her from three boxes, and she believes all of this! It turns out that they are really getting married, and five years later she finds out that he had had a second family all this time. What will happen to the woman? Guard! It is destroyed, life collapsed, depression, psychotherapists ... Why did this happen? Because there was faith, and then disappointment came.
If you look at life realistically, nothing like this will happen to you. After all, you understand that at first in love there is a candy-gingerbread period, which lasts two or three years. Then begins the adult economic love, and then boredom or hatred. What to do with it? You won’t do anything! Everything passes in this life. Everything flows, everything changes! Bouquet joy sooner or later will pass in any case, but it can be transformed into partnership and friendships. You can start many joint affairs, support each other during times of ups and downs and achieve the implementation of the most ambitious projects. And it turns out that each of the spouses in such a family is fun and interesting.
When you know what this world is and what men are, you can look at it with wide eyes. This world is much more diverse than fairy tales about ideal love, which we ourselves composed.
Love is such a complex concept, especially for a man. He loves both his wife and his mistress, and he can also love someone else for a short while. I do not believe in perfect marriages when no one is cheating on anyone. I have not seen such - not a single one! You read the memoirs of the wife of the physicist Landau. I think this is a very typical situation. And if you look closely, you will see that around you there are such pairs in bulk. I am not telling you that there is no need to fall in love and get married. This must be done! But if you understand what men are, then you will not have disappointments. And if there are no disappointments, then there will be energy in order to be young and happy. Let's take positive from life, and not hang out in the endless hypocritical negativity!